Instant messaging is just that — it’s instant — but we still withhold our response times to try and show just how busy, important, and unattached we are. We write people off for a minor detail and quickly look for the next best thing that we’ll somehow also find flaws in. We fail to realize that relationships are a balanced bond and that with the amazing things come imperfections as well. We don’t believe we need to settle on anything because there’s always someone better looking with a better family life, better hobbies or someone with a better bank account.We move from person to person and even if we land on someone that makes us feel great and we could totally devote ourselves to in a relationship, we’re never quite willing to give up the search.When we’ve hurt someone’s feelings, we don’t feel even the slightest bit inclined to apologize or to make good on our wrongs. A person’s emotions, even if caused by something we did or said, is up to them to resolve. We’re in the thick of a hookup culture that values sex more than love, temporary fulfillment instead of life-long commitment and lazy ass communication that often gets lost in translation.
Sex is scarily available — we can have it simply with the swipe of a finger.There’s zero effort made into getting to know someone for who they truly are unless we’re willing to undress and show the most sacred parts of ourselves first. If we show our cards and act like we’re interested, it leaves the person we’re affectionate about turned off and running in the opposite direction instead of being flattered that we actually give a crap about them. Now of those, how many would you be attracted to as a date and how many can you tell just by watching them that you’d probably never date? In other words, how many single females or males are there in the same classroom?We don’t even trust that love exists anymore because all we’re constantly met with disappointment.
Dating as a millennial is like being in an apocalypse of love — and it’s pretty screwed up.Those numbers should be very similar in 2010 when the Census is collected.Does that mean that you could have 15 million potential mates out there somewhere? You see, it would take more time than any mortal has in their life to ever interact with that many people.Andrea Wesley Andrea is a Thirty-Something freelance writer living in the suburbs of Vancouver, Canada with her ridiculous ginger tabby, Jagger.She first discovered her passion for writing at the age of 10 when she began filling notebooks with poetry.She's a cliche lover of wine, sushi, all things Parisian and spiking her coffee with Baileys.