Solange, 79, from Wales told us: “I might have been in my 40s when I had an inkling of what it was. Solange added: “My take on older men right now is that they’re looking for a housekeeper or a care-giver, neither of which roles I am prepared to take on.” And so living apart seems to be a growing trend among older people trying to keep things fresh.
Justin has had people come to him using household products as lubricants- shampoo, hand cream and even cooking oil.“There does need to be perhaps a focus on trying to make services more older people friendly.” In many ways it is no surprise that older people are taking risks.Joey, 69, from London said: “I got to a point where I thought I’m going to kick the bucket fairly soon.” So three months ago, he joined Grindr, the mobile dating app for gay men, and told us he’s now “averaging, I would say, four men a week”.Joey is like almost half of all our respondents (46 per cent) who told us that sex is important to their lives.In fact, STIs have doubled in 50-90-year-olds in the past 10 years.
Justin Gaffney is a sexual health nurse consultant and told us: “There is a degree of naivety in the older population in that they just don’t see that they are at risk of sexual infections.” In fact, older people become more anatomically susceptible to STIs as they age, and yet 64 per cent of our respondents who are either in new relationships or are dating, hadn’t sought sexual health advice.
Despite many feeling liberated in themselves, many told us they didn’t feel like society was very approving of OAP sex.
Many felt overlooked and that they became invisible after the menopause.
Online dating has made sex more accessible for men and women over 60.
But as well as offering the possibility of greater sexual fulfilment, the internet is also throwing up new challenges and dangers.
“I have got my wits about me, I do know what it’s all about.” Stella and Peter met on e Harmony and got married a year ago, having both lost their long-term partners.