These are all status indicators, and they’re part of the attraction factor.
Dating an older man may surprise you: he may be a better listener than anyone younger that you’ve been with.And if you prefer talking on the phone to texting, there’s a good chance he does too.Being financially stable isn’t about making 0k a year. It’s nice to date a man who can afford to pay for dinner.Whose car doesn’t break down in front of your house… Who could afford to take a spontaneous weekend getaway with you…Don’t you find photos of men speaking on stage on dating apps appealing?
When you find out a guy you just met is a doctor, doesn’t your mouth water?
If you’ve already had kids in your past relationship or don’t want any in the future, dating an older man is a good path for you, because it’s less likely that he’s interested in having (more) kids. While it depends on the person, you may find that an older man prefers his routines and may not be as keen to go out.
He may even have grown children, which may be easier to deal with if you get serious and end up living together or married (you’re not the wicked stepmother to small children). But these are a few things to be aware of if you consider dating an older man. But you’ve both got to be able to compromise in order to make a relationship work. If it’s important to you to have an active social life, dating an older man may not be for you. You likely want a serious relationship too, but you know you can’t rush it. Speeding into becoming an established couple never works.
Some critics of women dating older men say they do so because they have “daddy issues,” but a recent study proved otherwise.
Here’s what it said: “…it is evolutionarily beneficial for women to seek older mates, and that there will be no significant difference in attachment styles between women in age-gap versus similar-age relationships.” What this means is that it’s an evolutionary pattern that women are drawn to older men, in part because of their status and resources. If you were pumping gas and a gorgeous Lamborghini/Tesla/Porsche pulled up next to you with a good-looking older man in it, wouldn’t you do a double-take?
A mature man isn’t in the middle of an identity crisis.