Whereas in the west people do not take the idea of marriage seriously until after they know a person for a number of years or feel like they know everything about the person.One way of looking at this difference is that after marriage you tend to accept your spouse’s differences and habits more easily than when you have a choice.It can be said that an arranged marriage in India is not based on feelings, but rather on commitment.
Many people have a pretty major misunderstanding of the topic of arranged marriages and in fact have a fairly negative attitude regarding arranged marriages.
The best way to understand the reasoning behind such cultures is to put aside your own beliefs, opinions, and preconceived ideas in order to see more clearly before dismissing it as wrong.
Like I’ve mentioned above this article is not to convince people to consider arranged marriages or to say they are better, it’s only to show that what we perceive as a wrong way of living or of giving up ones rights is not the way the situation is looked at in other cultures.
It’s important to realize that just as in ‘love’ marriages, it may not be right for everyone, and not all work well, but they should not be confused and associated with other social issues like domestic violence, dowry or womens rights.
Arranged marriages have always been a debatable subject.
It is in the major outlook on relationships that Indians are vastly different, in the way they perceive the institution of marriage, to those beliefs of other countries especially in the west.The fact that an arranged marriage is actually preferred in many cases in India, and may even indeed be a healthy and happier form of love than the marriages experienced in the west comes as somewhat of a shock or at least a surprise to most.Many Indians look at marrying a person they don’t know, gives one “a lifetime to learn to love them”, as opposed to the American ideal of learning a person inside and out before entering into marriage.A daughter is said to marry into a family in India.Marriage is not perceived as a relationship between two people but as a relationship between families and especially between the girl and her husband’s family.A relationship not bound by marriage is more easily broken for the smaller nuances in life.